DIY: Marriage Power Tool
- Rita Larson
- Apr 1, 2023
- 3 min read
I had a close friend reach out to me today and ask for prayer in relation to some marital issues. Difficult times are going to come up in marriage. Not always will you see eye to eye with your spouse. A question came up during our conversation. “How do you get past an unresolved dispute?” When we are hurt and angry, it can be challenging to move forward in your relationship.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool, especially in marriage. It is essential to the health and longevity of a relationship. Forgiveness is not about condoning bad behavior, but rather about giving yourself, your partner, and your family the type of future they deserve, unencumbered by the hurt and anger of the past. It can be difficult to forgive, especially when we’ve been hurt, but it’s an essential part of a healthy marriage. Forgiveness is a strength, not a weakness. It shows that you are willing to move past the hurt and anger of a situation. It is not about condoning or excusing the wrongdoing, but rather about taking control of your own life and your emotions.
Forgiveness is not an easy task, and it takes time to let go of the things you have no control over. Praying for guidance and strength is an important part of the process. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” This scripture emphasizes the need for us to be kind and forgiving, just as God has forgiven us.
It isn’t always easy to pray for those who have wronged us. Asking for God’s help to forgive a partner allows us to open our hearts and minds to the healing process.
Praying for your partner can also help to change your perspective and lead to greater understanding and empathy. In Matthew 5:44 we read, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” It is often difficult to pray for those who have hurt us, but doing so can be incredibly freeing and healing.
Matthew 6:14-15 also speaks of forgiveness, saying, “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” This scripture speaks to the power of forgiveness and how it is essential to our own spiritual wellbeing. Forgiveness is an essential part of our faith and an act of spiritual growth.
Forgiveness is a choice that you have to make. Miracles happen when you choose to forgive. Ephesians 4:26-27 "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: neither give place to the devil." Letting go of hurt and anger is going to take time and work, but it is so worth it! Sometimes you must just let go and give it to God. It can free us from the pain of the past and allow us to move forward in our marriage with love and compassion.
As we practice forgiveness, we can find peace and joy in our relationship with our spouse. Spend time in prayer and ask God to help you to forgive and to lead you to a place of peace and understanding. With patience and practice, you can find strength in forgiveness and be empowered to move forward in your marriage with love and understanding. ©Rita Larson 4/1/2023
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